Love After Loss

Step one when we suffer a loss is deciding.

We must DECIDE whether to let this loss change us for the better or for the worse.

If we perceive that we lost a person whom we deeply loved, we can still love them. Their physical proximity has no bearing on our love. Love is a non physical experience. Love is of the spirit. When someone we love chooses to leave, we can focus on the loving and forgive the leaving.

No one owes us physical proximity.

This is a big universe and loving means allowing the beloved to move freely as their heart desires. Loving means acceptance that everyone has their own soul’s journey to complete. It means appreciation for the time we were gifted with their presence, and the time we spent walking together.

Earthly comforts can become addictions and relationships can become dependencies. Neither of these has any relationship to love.

What tribute is bitterness to the beautiful love that we received?

We can only learn about real love through loss. Loss rips off all the earthly wrapping paper so we can experience the gift inside. It may have been prettier before, but now we have something we can actually use. Now we can decide. Can I love even if I won’t receive what I believe I want in return? Loss makes us squishy, vulnerable, and different. We are humbled in the presence of this experience that we cannot control. Loss allows us to exist with the impermanence of our present conditions and face the truth of our fleeting physical existence.

Love is the part that lasts. Love is the part that exists within, eternally available and omnipresent.

The time spent focusing on the perceived leaving is a distraction. There are so many beings on this earth who want our love. Love is always available to us, many times in the very next room.

We can practice the devotion of turning our attention to love with one second of decision.

This is the way. This is the practice. This is the truth.

We get to choose love in any circumstance and it always leads to heaven.

Because choosing love is choosing God.

I’m choosing heaven today. I’m choosing love today.

In this choice I surrender to the God of Love that dwells within.

And I understand that this divine love is impossible to lose.

And so it is…

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